The documented loss of empathy among our children is certainly reason for grave concern. Is not empathy the attribute that makes us truly human and humane, that nurtures love and compassion, that knits the fabric of civilization together? Parents and teachers are increasingly concerned about the meanness between siblings and class-mates. This loss of empathy can be sensed among adults as well – in the meanness of much of today’s music and entertainment, in the perverse reactions to victims on the internet, in the insensitive rhetoric of some of our leading politicians, in the increasing triumph of greed over generosity in our society.
The knee-jerk reactions to this erosion of empathy have proven quite fruitless: attempting to get children to be nice to each other, teaching empathy as a skill or a value, railing against bullying, or punishing mean behaviour. Even well-intended efforts at emotional education and teaching self-regulation in schools are not resulting in the differences that were hoped for.
So what can be done? How can we as parents, teachers and helping professionals reverse this tide? How can we take children who feel like being mean to find their caring concern once again? What are the keys to raising children who reach out with compassion to the wounded and will ultimately become the caring and considerate adults our world needs.
We cannot truly address a problem we do not understand. Empathy, it turns out, is not simply an attribute that can be taught, a value that can be inculcated, or a skill that can be trained. Reinforcing behaviour associated with empathy will actually corrupt its authenticity, turning medicine into poison.
Dr. Neufeld will trace empathy to its roots in attachment, emotion and development. Once we understand what is missing or what has been lost, the challenges for restoring empathy become clear, both in individual cases and well as in our homes and schools.
While the situation is somewhat dire, there is much reason for hope in turning the situation around, both individually and in our communities.  Insight is key however, and that is where we must start.


I am thoroughly engaged in putting the final touches to the upcoming seminar on empathy, scheduled to be filmed on July 25, 25, 2020. This will be the third Saturday seminar that we are doing in this format, live-streamed from our basement studio. It strikes me that all three seminars are about feelings in some way, which makes perfect sense to me in retrospect. READ THE REST OF GORDON’S NOTE HERE…

Suitability & Applicability

While highly relevant to any parent, this course is designed to be especially applicable to educators and helping professionals.

The material is appropriate for 6 CEUs (Continuing Education Units) but students must apply individually for this credit through their own professional regulatory organizations.

A more detailed course syllabus is available upon request if required for CEU application purposes.

Time & Place

Saturday, July 25, 2020
9:00 AM to 4:00 PM PST

Online via ZOOM webinar platform. Registrants will receive the meeting link information via email.

Recording Access

The recording from this seminar will be used to form the basis for a new online course by the Neufeld Institute. The recording is not available to purchase after the live event, however, all registrants will receive exclusive access to the recording for 30 days following the live seminar.


Attendees may cancel their registration and receive a full refund until 4:00 pm PST on Thursday, July 23, 2020. After this date, cancellations will not be eligible for a refund, however, attendees will receive access to the seminar recording for 30 days.